Three months ago I felt tired and exhausted, so I went to the doctor and was painfully told that I had kidney disease. After a few months of treatment, the doctor told me that I needed a kidney donor to have a normal life.
My family knows about this and is very concerned and sad. Parents will grow old in a few nights. Where can I find someone who can donate my kidney? My parents are old, my sister is also getting married again raising children…
Meanwhile, my wife suddenly announced that she would donate her kidney to her husband. The woman said her health was very good, and donating a kidney was fine. We already have a son, it’s ok not to have another baby later. She just wants me to live with my wife and kids for a long time.
My parents burst into tears because they were touched and grateful to their daughter-in-law. I couldn’t hold back my tears either. My wife and I have been married for 6 years, we have a 4 year old boy Year old.
Two days ago, late at night, I was struggling to sleep, got up to find my wife and found her standing on the balcony, talking on the phone. When I listen to the content, I know that the woman is speaking to her biological mother to donate through my kidney.
I think the mother-in-law advised her daughter against it. If I put myself in their shoes, I totally understand. But my wife’s explanation then left me stunned:
‘It’s his fault, Mother. I didn’t marry him for love, we’ve lived together for so many years, but my heart can’t be moved. For me everything is just a responsibility. But he is. He is too kind, tolerant and takes care of me without charging anything. I feel like I owe him one.”
It is important for husband and wife to live together to have feelings. Over the years I thought I had one perfect marriagewho knows that my wife lives with me until now, only for reasons of responsibility.
I am very sad but also worried will she ever pay my debt, meet someone her wife really loves, will she leave? Please put yourself in my shoes and try to help me with the question of whether I should let my wife donate my kidney again?